tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post7816901952536510343..comments2023-10-29T09:22:45.796-04:00Comments on Thora Florence: Somewhere, Over the Rainbow...Thorahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04564924243186464304noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-24674527333353816232008-05-12T02:58:00.000-04:002008-05-12T02:58:00.000-04:00Perhaps I shouldn't confess this, but ever since I...Perhaps I shouldn't confess this, but ever since I have been married, I have been planning what I would do if Kevin dies--not like, financially or anything, but who I would marry. The thoughts go in bizzare directions. The other day, my husband and my sister rode together to an early church meeting, and before we joined them later, I had already mentally married my brother-in-law after both of them died in a car accident just so that our two children (one hers, one mine) could continue to have the most stable home possible. Even though I am very glad I am currently married to my husband and not my brother-in-law, and it would take much change of taste to feel otherwise, I decided that I could and would do that, for the sake of the children. I don't know if this is better or worse than before we had kids and I would wonder if someone that I had wanted to date before Kevin would still be available, or perhaps available again, after Kevin died. I'm glad I'm not the only one with objectively morbid thoughts. For the record: I do not want my husband to die or to marry anyone else.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12798756205391129473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-702063967744914082008-05-07T08:57:00.000-04:002008-05-07T08:57:00.000-04:00But Samuel, what about me? I have every intention ...But Samuel, what about me? I have every intention of marrying Avram as soon as plural marriage is re-instated. Thora and I have discussed this. At length. So if he dies, where does that leave me? What does the Bible say about marrying both your older brother's wives?<BR/><BR/>(Disclaimer: I am just kidding. Mostly.)<BR/><BR/>I, too, have planned for people's deaths . . . my parents', since I'm not married. I've thought about how we'd cope, since I'm old enough now to be a guardian for my siblings. The mission would be out. The master's degree would be out. Camp would be out. I would just have to work and take care of Bethe and Teancum, and learn how to do things like health insurance and car repair and selling things on ebay to buy food. I keep wondering if sister Cat would help out, but I'm pretty sure she wouldn't.RoseEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04661691621310590334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-85138769105634256572008-05-06T16:56:00.000-04:002008-05-06T16:56:00.000-04:00I am sooo glad that I am not the only one! Sound ...I am sooo glad that I am not the only one! Sound like there are a few of us out there! Oh, and samuel, I think your comments were funny.<BR/>HeatherBurnhamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16074575191406377078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-43122016770994162232008-05-06T15:44:00.000-04:002008-05-06T15:44:00.000-04:00My wife wants me to add that I do not actually sup...My wife wants me to add that I do not actually support the practice of plural marriage. This is a fact. Plural marriage is a practice that has long been illegal in America and is not support by our religion. As a result the above statement was intended entirely as a humorous addition to the conversation.<BR/><BR/>However, I have heard that polygamy is legal in certain other nations. We could always move there....Samuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04856949165717355243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-13793832481738222782008-05-06T15:41:00.000-04:002008-05-06T15:41:00.000-04:00Don't worry Thora, I am not upset by your ideas or...Don't worry Thora, I am not upset by your ideas or comments at all. In fact I am in full support of them. It is a fine biblical tradition to marry the older brother's wife. I am in support of all biblical traditions. When Avram dies, you can be my second wife. Polygamy works.Samuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04856949165717355243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-86455388181659249342008-05-06T12:03:00.000-04:002008-05-06T12:03:00.000-04:00Thora, I do the same thing! when Ben whent to Engl...Thora, I do the same thing! when Ben whent to England for his friends wedding and I was waiting for his call to let me know that he was okay, I created all sorts of situations in my head. I imagined that he died in a plane crash and that I would be all alone. You have to understand that Ben is in charge of all of our bill paying and such. So I was paniking that I had no idea how to even pay our bills or what. Also would I stay here, or move back home? I had pritty much planned the next 20 years of my life in just a few moments. <BR/> One time when I was driving myself and my very pregnant sis-in-law around I got to thinking that if I got in to a wreck and her and the baby died, how I don't think that I could live with myself. How mad my brother in law would be. <BR/>I wonder why we do this. I have always done it. When I tell Ben he acts like I have a really over acting imagination. He gives me this look like I am crazy or something. So I don't usually tell him.<BR/>I also have ones where Ben divorces me. <BR/>Oh well I guess that I am just a little weird :)<BR/>Love ya<BR/>maryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-69612724016039567642008-05-06T07:38:00.000-04:002008-05-06T07:38:00.000-04:00Ever since I was a child, anytime someone was late...Ever since I was a child, anytime someone was late, I had them dead and buried and had moved on in my life before they showed up just fine. I think part of it is trying to deal with the practicalities that go with death before you have to deal with the emotional issues if in fact someone you love dearly does die.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152419247914244251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-3292834660458193522008-05-05T19:51:00.000-04:002008-05-05T19:51:00.000-04:00i think of things like this too. So i think its n...i think of things like this too. So i think its normal! For instance today we went and visited Taylor's grave and I made the comment that there was an empty space in baby row ( where all the babies are buried) and that was perfect so this little boy could be buried by Taylor... and then after a pause i added if he dies of course. Cory was a bit creeped out that i even would suggest the baby die. I think about it alot though.. I think about what i would bury him in, what pictures i would want this time round. That i would invite the whoel familiy up to meet him or have an open caseket so that he would be a read baby to them this time. ( hard to pretend they didnt excist when you hold a 6 pound baby in your arms) so i guess i am morbid.. but i think in reality i am just a planner. I like to plan things and be prepared so i think of all the things that i want to happen just in case.<BR/><BR/>oh and by the way i like up right headstones too.. but you dont get a choice much anymore. certain parts of cemetaries and certain cemetaries dont allow them anymore. Its becuase its more costly to mow around them. also for the record we are not allowed to plant flowers or things like that at taylors site for the same ( mowing) reasons. Anyways just thought you might like to know. By the time you DO die plan it to be in a small town cemetary becuase the big ones are usually not allowing those headstones you like anymore. ( where cory's dad is buried you cant have them at all)Camillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222505107451912209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679631342517586283.post-39452588391843785552008-05-05T14:26:00.000-04:002008-05-05T14:26:00.000-04:00My mom said that the only unpleasant thing with he...My mom said that the only unpleasant thing with her pregnancies (she didn't even get morning sickness!) was that she would regularly have nightmares where a man would break into their house at night and attack them. She also says that her mother said, of her own pregnancies, that she always felt better about herself while pregnant, as opposed to being somewhat depressed and hard on herself normally.<BR/>Needless to say, whenever I get pregnant in the future, I hope I take after my mom and grandma, who never had morning sickness and other such problems.Aleatha Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00392415295910123120noreply@blogger.com